I don’t want to leave her high and dry, but my child and I could live comfortably on my salary alone (it’s been a pinch with all three of us together). My thought is to give her a couple of years to get her financial feet under her and become self-sufficient. Then we officially separate. But is that fair? I know I will start to feel taken advantage of if I continue to supply 90% of the income and have to pay for her dates. It was always “our money” but now it’s starting to feel like “my money that she’s using”.
That's a tough one. I would say, seek professional advice. Wish you three the best of luck. :-)