Hear hear! It was a conversation I had to have with myself in my 20s. At some point, I was the "sane" voice in my group of friends. The bloke they all sought out when they had problems. Little did I know back then that by focusing on their issues, I was ignoring mine and at the same time bigging my ego up.
Wolf is one of those writers I'll have to go back to at some point. I only read To the Lighthouse in uni and I can hardly remember it.
Terrific post.