If you recognise yourself as an enabler, don’t go rushing down the self-blame route: That’s not productive. Instead, think this: Your partner’s behaviour has led you into enabling and you’re here because you love them and want to do the right thing. However you need to step aside and hand them back some power. And you also need to take back some power for yourself. You have a responsibility to yourself and the life YOU want to live. If you need a permission slip, here it is. Begin today.